Breaking Sports Kids’ Perfectionism
You may wonder why sports kids need to be freed from being perfectionists.
After all, perfectionist athletes work hard, show up on time, and listen to their coaches.
But here’s the downside of all that hard work: Perfectionists are so hard on themselves that they are their own worst enemies.
They hold high expectations for themselves, and get frustrated when they can’t meet those expectations. If they make mistakes during a game, for example, they’ll often freeze up and start playing it “safe.”
The last thing you want is for your sports kids to play it safe. When kids play it safe, they stop taking those essential risks that help them learn—and grow!
You need to free sports kids from the bonds of perfectionism. First of all, help them identify their high expectations—thoughts like “I have to be the top scorer in the game today,” or “I’m responsible for today’s win.”
Instead, ask them to focus more on the process—all the smaller tasks involved in executing skills. They might focus on making good shots at the goal, or being good defensive players, or communicating well with teammates, for example.
What’s more, ask them to identify their expectations, and talk to them about the dangers of having such high expectations. You might provide some examples about games in which high expectations worked against them.
For example, you might tell your point guard, “Last week you went into that game with the idea that you’d be the top scorer. As soon as you had a turnover, you stopped playing hard and just played to avoid mistakes. How could you do that differently?”
In our research, we’ve found that the number one challenge sports kids face is perfectionism and fear of failure.
To help you free your sports kids from high expectations, we’ve got a great program for you called, “Helping Young Athletes Kick Perfectionism and Fear of Failure,”.
It’s actually two programs in one: A CD and manual for sports parents, and a CD and workbook for kids. This allows you and your kids to work on this top challenge together.
What do people have to say about our resources?
“I just wanted to drop you a note and let you know that I am very much enjoying the mental game tips you send me. My teams are grateful for every ounce of knowledge that helps to boost their confidence and self-esteem. They have told me that it not only helps them with their game and their focus but in a lot of other parts of daily life, especially with dealing with everyday pressures with school and peers.”
~Rushell MacDonald, Coach
Free your sports kids from the bonds of perfectionism—and they’ll feel more confident and will enjoy sports more!
Help Young Athletes Overcome Perfectionist Challenges in Sports!
Sports Parents’ Top Dilemma: Helping Young Athletes Kick Perfectionism And Fear of Failure will walk you through the problem and arm you with practical solutions.
The Sports Parents’ Top Dilemma is a two part program. It includes:
- A 23 page E-book that identifies the challenge, explains why it is harmful to young athletes and gives step-by-stop sports psychology tips for helping kids.
- A 21 page kids’ sports psychology workbook that is intended to help you kids identify beliefs and expectations that are the root of perfectionism.
Now you can learn how to help young athletes overcome the difficult cycle of perfectionism, fear of failure and loss of confidence!
What are parents saying?
“Your Information Had Been So Helpful”
“After listening to a couple of your podcasts and reading your “10 tips to confidence in youth sports,” most of the challenges you make note of apply to my 14-year-old son. He’s got all the physical ability, but the more mistakes he makes, the worse it seems to get. So reading and listening to your information has been so helpful and validates what I have observed in him for the past few months. Thank you so much!”
~Brenda Felder, Everett, WA
Help Your Young Athletes Overcome Self-Doubt In Sports!
The Confident Sports Kid helps young athletes improve confidence quickly and overcome common confidence killers that destroy motivation and fun in sports!
This is a 7-day program for sports parents and kids to boost young athletes’ performance, happiness and success… in sports and life!
The Confident Sports Kid program is actually two programs: one that teaches sports parents how to boost their kids’ confidence, and another that teaches young athletes age 8 to 12 how to improve their self talk, avoid negative thinking, overcome expectations that limit confidence, and much more.
What are parents and coaches saying?
“Each Race He Was More Calm, Composed, And Relaxed”
“I just wanted to say thank you for your wonderful programs. My son Kai was one of the fastest 10 and under swimmers in Southern California and after he “aged up” to the 11-12 group he really lost confidence swimming against the much faster and bigger boys. He started with the Confident Sports Kids series and really enjoyed each and every lesson. He then started the Composed Kid series and built on the important building blocks that he was using from the first series. I so happy to report that Kai was able to swim to best times in each and every event he swam at the biggest and most important meet of the year in So Cal, the Club Championships. Each race he was more calm, composed, and relaxed. The final race was one that he was ranked last and one of his goals was to try for top 16…he was 49th! He cut over 4 seconds off his time ending up in 17th. He was ecstatic to say the least.”