{"id":3334,"date":"2016-08-03T19:34:42","date_gmt":"2016-08-03T19:34:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.youthsportspsychology.com\/youth_sports_psychology_blog\/?p=3334"},"modified":"2025-07-11T05:16:04","modified_gmt":"2025-07-11T09:16:04","slug":"sports-moms-help-dads-build-kids-confidence","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.youthsportspsychology.com\/youth_sports_psychology_blog\/sports-moms-help-dads-build-kids-confidence\/","title":{"rendered":"How Sports Moms Help Dads Build Kids&#8217; Confidence"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading has-text-align-center\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-3337 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youthsportspsychology.com\/youth_sports_psychology_blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/how-sports-moms-help-dads-build-kids-confidence-1.jpg\" alt=\"sports parents treatment\" width=\"600\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.youthsportspsychology.com\/youth_sports_psychology_blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/how-sports-moms-help-dads-build-kids-confidence-1.jpg 600w, https:\/\/www.youthsportspsychology.com\/youth_sports_psychology_blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/how-sports-moms-help-dads-build-kids-confidence-1-300x150.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 600px) 100vw, 600px\" \/><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading has-text-align-center\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The_Difference_Between_Moms_and_Dads_as_Sports_Parents\"><\/span>The Difference Between Moms and Dads as Sports Parents<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2><div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_83 ez-toc-wrap-center counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\" style=\"cursor:inherit\">Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/www.youthsportspsychology.com\/youth_sports_psychology_blog\/sports-moms-help-dads-build-kids-confidence\/#The_Difference_Between_Moms_and_Dads_as_Sports_Parents\" >The Difference Between Moms and Dads as Sports Parents<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-3' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/www.youthsportspsychology.com\/youth_sports_psychology_blog\/sports-moms-help-dads-build-kids-confidence\/#Moms_And_Dads\" >Moms And Dads<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/www.youthsportspsychology.com\/youth_sports_psychology_blog\/sports-moms-help-dads-build-kids-confidence\/#Related_Articles_on_Youth_Sports\" >Related Articles on Youth Sports:<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/www.youthsportspsychology.com\/youth_sports_psychology_blog\/sports-moms-help-dads-build-kids-confidence\/#Help_Young_Athletes_Boost_Confidence_in_Sports\" >Help Young Athletes Boost Confidence in Sports!<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In the 1960s, youth football coach R. \u201cBob\u201d Benjamin Jordan was upset by the way the dads behaved on the sidelines.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>\u201cDads had strong opinions that were different from the coaches,\u201d<\/em> he recalls. They were vocal and critical of the coaches.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>\u201cI devised a plan to win the <strong>dads <\/strong>over through the moms. The <strong>moms <\/strong>were the glue that held the team together. They brought snacks to the practices and cooked late dinners after practices.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>His plan:<\/strong> to teach moms how to play football so they could better understand what the kids were experiencing and could use that understanding to influence the fathers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>\u201cWe had the first session in my basement. I showed the <strong>moms <\/strong>how to put on equipment. Then we moved to the field. We ran plays, ran defense and worked on kicking. The moms did everything their kids would do.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Moms_And_Dads\"><\/span>Moms And Dads<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Of course, all along Jordan\u2019s aim was to build the confidence of the kids on his team. He thought that the players\u2019 confidence was undermined by the way the dads behaved.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>\u201cEvery kid has something he does well, but the <strong>dads <\/strong>wanted it to happen too fast. The kids would get discouraged and feel as if they couldn\u2019t live up to their fathers\u2019 expectations,\u201d<\/em> he said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">As a result of Jordan\u2019s experiment, the <strong>moms <\/strong>served as assistant coaches because they understood the game and what the kids were going through. The moms were better able to communicate to the fathers how they should behave on the sidelines.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">As for the kids, they loved the fact that their mothers played football and understood the game.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Jordan, who is working on a series of books for moms about sports, gives some other great ideas for boosting kids\u2019 confidence in our interview with him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><audio class=\"wp-audio-shortcode\" id=\"audio-3334-1\" preload=\"none\" style=\"width: 100%;\" controls=\"controls\"><source type=\"audio\/mpeg\" src=\"http:\/\/lisacohn.audioacrobat.com\/download\/lisacohn-20160802092847-2676.mp3?_=1\" \/><a href=\"http:\/\/lisacohn.audioacrobat.com\/download\/lisacohn-20160802092847-2676.mp3\">http:\/\/lisacohn.audioacrobat.com\/download\/lisacohn-20160802092847-2676.mp3<\/a><\/audio><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">At Kids\u2019 Sports Psychology, you\u2019ll find loads of other resources: additional audio interviews, e-books, videos, Questions-and-Answers and much more!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-dots\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"related-articles-on-hockey-mental-game\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Related_Articles_on_Youth_Sports\"><\/span>Related Articles on Youth Sports:<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youthsportspsychology.com\/youth_sports_psychology_blog\/communication-to-build-kids-confidence\/\"><strong>Communication to Build kids\u2019 Confidence [Podcast]<\/strong><\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youthsportspsychology.com\/youth_sports_psychology_blog\/how-this-sport-builds-confidence-and-focus-in-kids\/\"><strong>How This Sport Builds Confidence and Focus in Kids<\/strong><\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youthsportspsychology.com\/youth_sports_psychology_blog\/helping-sports-kids-build-stable-confidence\/\"><strong>Helping Sports Kids Build Stable Confidence\u00a0<\/strong><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\" id=\"block-f49818fa-7c7a-4ee3-b5ee-66581aad2c71\">*Subscribe to\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/sports-psychology-podcast-by-peaksports-com\/id152566009\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong>The Sports Psychology Podcast<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0on iTunes<br>*Subscribe to <a href=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/0ynyaalKxbnNmsoeL8gF5X?si=8224669de9b3435b\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong>The Sports Psychology Podcast<\/strong><\/a> on Spotify<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-dots\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Help_Young_Athletes_Boost_Confidence_in_Sports\"><\/span>Help Young Athletes Boost Confidence in Sports!<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"alignright size-full is-resized\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youthsportspsychology.com\/youth_sports_psychology_blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/ultimate-sports-parent-small.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"225\" height=\"250\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youthsportspsychology.com\/youth_sports_psychology_blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/ultimate-sports-parent-small.jpg\" alt=\"The Ultimate Sports Parent\" class=\"wp-image-11157\" style=\"width:167px;height:auto\"\/><\/a><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Every day, we receive letters from parents like you who want their children and teens to excel in sports. However, these parents can <strong>see fear, doubt, and frustration on the faces of their kids<\/strong> who struggle with the \u201cinner\u201d game of sports. But these parents have no idea how to help their kids <strong>overcome the worries, expectations and self-defeating thoughts<\/strong> that prevent their young athletes from feeling confident and successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You can benefit from our 1<strong>5-plus years\u2019 of work in sports psychology and sports parenting research<\/strong>. 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