{"id":375,"date":"2010-03-01T18:25:16","date_gmt":"2010-03-01T18:25:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.youthsportspsychology.com\/youth_sports_psychology_blog\/?p=375"},"modified":"2025-08-07T07:07:21","modified_gmt":"2025-08-07T11:07:21","slug":"these-sports-kids-are-prone-to-emotional-tantrums","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.youthsportspsychology.com\/youth_sports_psychology_blog\/these-sports-kids-are-prone-to-emotional-tantrums\/","title":{"rendered":"Sports Kids That Are Prone To Emotional Tantrums"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youthsportspsychology.com\/youth_sports_psychology_blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/post-game-mistakes.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"600\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youthsportspsychology.com\/youth_sports_psychology_blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/post-game-mistakes.jpg\" alt=\"Athletes who dwell on mistakes after games\" class=\"wp-image-9135\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.youthsportspsychology.com\/youth_sports_psychology_blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/post-game-mistakes.jpg 600w, https:\/\/www.youthsportspsychology.com\/youth_sports_psychology_blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/post-game-mistakes-300x150.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 600px) 100vw, 600px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading has-text-align-center\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Young_Athletes_That_Struggle_With_Composure\"><\/span>Young Athletes That Struggle With Composure<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2><div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_82_2 ez-toc-wrap-center counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\" style=\"cursor:inherit\">Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/www.youthsportspsychology.com\/youth_sports_psychology_blog\/these-sports-kids-are-prone-to-emotional-tantrums\/#Young_Athletes_That_Struggle_With_Composure\" >Young Athletes That Struggle With Composure<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-3' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/www.youthsportspsychology.com\/youth_sports_psychology_blog\/these-sports-kids-are-prone-to-emotional-tantrums\/#What_kids_are_most_likely_to_have_emotional_tantrums_during_a_game\" >What kids are most likely to have emotional tantrums&nbsp;during a game?<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/www.youthsportspsychology.com\/youth_sports_psychology_blog\/these-sports-kids-are-prone-to-emotional-tantrums\/#The_number_one_reason_kids_drop_out_of_sports_is_because_they_no_longer_have_fun\" >The number one reason kids drop out of sports is because they no longer have fun.<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/www.youthsportspsychology.com\/youth_sports_psychology_blog\/these-sports-kids-are-prone-to-emotional-tantrums\/#Related_Articles_on_Kids_Mental_Game\" >Related Articles on Kids&#8217; Mental Game:<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/www.youthsportspsychology.com\/youth_sports_psychology_blog\/these-sports-kids-are-prone-to-emotional-tantrums\/#The_Composed_Sports_Kid\" >The Composed Sports Kid<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n\n\n\n\n<p>I have a special announcement for you today, but first I want to share a sports parent&#8217;s story with you&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Over the last few weeks, several parents and coaches posted comments on our video about why kids become<strong> frustrated<\/strong> in sports. If you missed the first two videos in this series, you can watch it on our blog:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.peaksports.com\/news\/how-athletes-become-frustrated-in-sports\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">How Athletes Become Frustrated<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As a matter of fact, parents contact us every day with their stories. One sports parent describes how his son gets easily&nbsp;angry:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>&#8220;My 14-year-old son has such <strong>high expectations<\/strong> for himself. If he does not hit the golf ball perfectly, or if he strikes out at baseball, he gets angry with himself. How do we get him to just have fun and let go of the mistakes?&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you can relate to this parent&#8217;s story, your kids&#8217; <strong>high expectations<\/strong> are one reason they shut down, cry, or lose their temper in practice and competition&#8211;when things don&#8217;t go according to plan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What_kids_are_most_likely_to_have_emotional_tantrums_during_a_game\"><\/span>What kids are most likely to have emotional tantrums&nbsp;during a game?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Kids who are super competitive and hate to lose.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Kids who work hard in practice and are highly <strong>motivated<\/strong> to <strong>succeed.<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Kids who demand a lot from themselves via their personal outcome expectations.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Kids who have a need for approval from others such as parents and coaches.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Kids who want to perform perfectly and can&#8217;t stand it when they mess up.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p>If your athletes fit one or more of the above profiles, help is on the way. I know you want what&#8217;s best for your athletes&#8217; <strong>success<\/strong> and <strong>happiness<\/strong> in sports. I know I do. And parents should not blame themselves because their kids get upset easily after making mistakes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I understand that coping with frustration is a tough challenge for both young athletes and their parents. Over 40% of parents we surveyed said their kids struggle with this issue&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For this reason, I&#8217;ve been working for six months to find a solution to cut through the clutter so I can help you and your kids overcome the &#8216;costly&#8217; problems associated with<strong> frustration<\/strong> <strong>and anger<\/strong> in sports.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It&#8217;s costly because their <strong>emotional<\/strong> state effects your kids <strong>enjoyment<\/strong> and participation in sports.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The_number_one_reason_kids_drop_out_of_sports_is_because_they_no_longer_have_fun\"><\/span>The number one reason kids drop out of sports is because they no longer have fun.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>When kids are frustrated, angry, or upset about their performance, they can&#8217;t have fun.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Making matters worse, parents, in their attempt to help kids improve <strong>emotional control <\/strong>and reduce their frustration, they often aggravate kids more. The more you punish the negative behaviors of anger and frustration, the more kids resent you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But as I have said in previous videos, you can&#8217;t help kids improve by focusing on the negative behaviors. You must help your athletes modify their beliefs, expectations, and level of self-acceptance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If all goes well, by next Friday I&#8217;ll have the solution for you. The new program will <strong>focus<\/strong> on helping you help kids who get <strong>upset, frustrated, or angry<\/strong>, particularly after mistakes or experiencing setbacks during sports.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Next week, you can watch a new video, which reveals my number one secret for helping athletes relax and <strong>cope with mistakes<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But if you have not seen my first two videos on this topic, you can watch them on our blog now:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.peaksports.com\/news\/how-athletes-become-frustrated-in-sports\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">How Athletes Become Frustrated<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I&#8217;m working on a new video to show you an example of how you can modify your kids&#8217;<strong> expectations<\/strong> so they can <strong>relax<\/strong> and let go of anger. It&#8217;s not rocket science. And you don&#8217;t need a doctorate in <strong>psychology<\/strong> to help your kids improve. Stay tuned!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-dots\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"related-articles-on-hockey-mental-game\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Related_Articles_on_Kids_Mental_Game\"><\/span>Related Articles on Kids&#8217; Mental Game:<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youthsportspsychology.com\/youth_sports_psychology_blog\/teaching-sports-kids-emotional-intelligence\/\"><strong>Teaching Sports Kids Emotional Intelligence<\/strong><\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youthsportspsychology.com\/youth_sports_psychology_blog\/youth-sports-an-athletes-emotional-tank\/\"><strong>Youth Sports: An Athletes \u201cEmotional Tank\u201d<\/strong><\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youthsportspsychology.com\/youth_sports_psychology_blog\/addressing-outbursts-in-youth-sports\/\"><strong>Addressing Outbursts in Youth Sports<\/strong><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p id=\"block-f49818fa-7c7a-4ee3-b5ee-66581aad2c71\">*Subscribe to<strong>\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/sports-psychology-podcast-by-peaksports-com\/id152566009\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">The Sports Psychology Podcast<\/a><\/strong>\u00a0on iTunes<br>*Subscribe to <a href=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/0ynyaalKxbnNmsoeL8gF5X?si=8224669de9b3435b\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong>The Sports Psychology Podcast<\/strong><\/a> on Spotify<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-css-opacity is-style-dots\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The_Composed_Sports_Kid\"><\/span>The Composed Sports Kid<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"alignright size-full is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"225\" height=\"250\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youthsportspsychology.com\/youth_sports_psychology_blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/03\/composed-sports-kid-small-1.jpg\" alt=\"The Composed Sports Kid\" class=\"wp-image-11173\" style=\"width:170px\"\/><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>&#8220;The Composed Sports Kid&#8221; audio&nbsp;and workbook digital download program for young athletes and their parents or coach helps kids cope with frustration and anger in sports. Help your sports kids learn how to manage expectations and let go of mistakes so they can keep their head in the game.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em><strong>The Composed Sports Kid system<\/strong><\/em>&nbsp;is really two programs in one\u2013one program to train parents and coaches how to help their kids practice composure, and one program that teaches young athletes\u2013<em>ages 6 to 13<\/em>\u2013how to improve composure, let go of mistakes quickly, have more self-acceptance,&nbsp;<strong>and thus enjoy sports more<\/strong>!&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"gb-container gb-container-26bcd9b3\">\n\n<a class=\"gb-button gb-button-903b6244 gb-button-text\" href=\"https:\/\/www.peaksports.com\/the-confident-sports-kid-cd-program\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">GET DETAILS<\/a>\n\n\n\n<a class=\"gb-button gb-button-3275f4fd gb-button-text\" href=\"https:\/\/shop.peaksports.com\/collections\/confident-sports-kid-series-digital-version\/products\/the-confident-sports-kid-bundle-digital\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">BUY NOW<\/a>\n\n<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Young Athletes That Struggle With Composure I have a special announcement for you today, but first I want to share a sports parent&#8217;s story with you&#8230; Over the last few weeks, several parents and coaches posted comments on our video about why kids become frustrated in sports. 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