How to Confidently Play to Win
Are your sports kids confident in their ability to close out games? Or do they get scared and play sloppily when their team is ahead?
Whether your kids play soccer, football, hockey or participate in gymnastics, they need to have an aggressive mindset to close out a competition.
Many athletes become nervous and afraid they’ll melt down even though they have a big lead. These fears of losing and embarrassment can be overwhelming.
For example, a tennis player is up by three games in the final set. She has been aggressive the first two sets, hitting a good number of aces. With a big lead in the last set, she serves cautiously, fearful of double faulting.
Her soft serves allows her opponent to return powerful shots down the line. She ends up allowing her opponent to catch up and take the lead.
Another example: A hockey team has a two-goal lead with five minutes left in the game. Instead of playing aggressively and closing out the game, the team plays defensively.
The defensive style and a few sloppy passes cause the team to give up two easy goals and tie at the end of regulation.
Sloppy play is the result of cautious play. When young athletes play not
to lose, they make mistakes and give their opponents the opportunity to get back in the game.
This is also true of professional athletes.
The Philadelphia Sixers played a game against the Houston Rockets, taking a 96-79 lead into the fourth quarter. Little by little, the Sixers allowed the Rockets to close the gap and the Sixers squeaked by with only a 5-point victory.
Sixers center Joel Embiid addressed the team’s sloppy play heading down the stretch.
“[The Rockets] started making some shots. We had a couple of turnovers, especially me. We had a stretch where at least six possessions in a row we lost possession and they came back down on the other end and started making shots. We have to learn to close games when needed. We relaxed. There’s a lot to learn, but we got the win,” he said.
To close out the competition, kids need to:
Understand the difference between aggressive and risky play. When they have the lead, they should focus on stretching the lead, not protecting it. They should play aggressively, without taking excessive risks that could lead to sloppy play.
Focus on their game. They may be tempted to focus on their opponent who is making a comeback. They should instead stay focused on their plan and strategy to finish strong.
Pay attention to the process and not the score. When kids focus on the score, they’re focused on the potential outcome of the game. They play not to lose–instead of focusing on the opportunities to maintain or extend the lead.
To boost their ability to finish well, sports kids should practice closing out games. They should create mental scenarios in practice in which they have a lead heading down the stretch.
For example, tennis players should create a mental scenario of being up three sets late in a match. Even when they see opponents making a push to climb back in the match, they should stay focused on each point.
In order to maintain a lead and finish out a game with a win, young athletes should keep the “pedal to the medal.”
They should challenge themselves to get another goal in hockey, have a strong last rotation in gymnastics, or continue to shoot when they are open in basketball.
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Help Kids in Sports Kick Perfectionism
Nearly every athlete struggles with some form of perfectionism or fear of failure. Kids who look like stars in practice will often choke up or under perform during games or competition.
Other athletes expect too much of themselves—then get frustrated when they don’t meet their high expectations.
Or they’re extremely hard on themselves. In all cases, this causes young athletes to play it safe. They refuse to take the important risks that help them excel and improve their confidence. Suddenly, they’re held back by fear, indecision, and hesitation.
Sports parents and coaches who contact us are bewildered. They watch kids go through this cycle and feel as if they have no clue about how to help their kids.
In fact, rather than supporting their young athletes’ mental game, they often pour salt in the wound, saying and doing things that cause their kids to freeze up even more and become more frustrated, more tense and less productive in sports.
There’s nothing worse than helplessly watching your young athletes fall into the same negative pattern again and again—without knowing what to do about it! It’s so frustrating to stand by while your physically talented athletes lose confidence, wondering how you can help them!
Then you try your best to help, only to discover you have made the problem worse. Your young athletes pressure themselves more, freeze up even more, lose their effectiveness and become more frustrated. They may even blame you for making them feel more pressured.
Now, you can learn how to help young athletes overcome the difficult cycle of perfectionism, fear of failure and loss of confidence. You can stop guessing about what to do and say to your athlete!
Our program: “Sports Parents’ Top Dilemma: Helping Young Athletes Kick Perfectionism and Fear of Failure,” will walk you through the problem and arm you with practical solutions you can start implementing today.
Makes your role as a sports parent more enjoyable and easier! We tell you how to help your young athletes:
- Let go of mistakes more quickly
- Accept feedback better
- Stop criticizing themselves
- Perform more freely
- Think more creatively
- Stop worrying about what others’ think
- Dramatically improve their performance and attitude in sports
- Improve their confidence in sports
- They, too, will have more fun and reap more rewards.