How to Perform Freely
We received an email from a young athlete what is feeling nervous…
“I have a figure skating competition next week and I was wondering if there are some tips to help me for the competition. I get really nervous for no reason. And I do really well in practice but not in the competition. In the competition I kind of get tense, and it seems like my mind is not really focused, and my technique isn’t the same as in practice.”
This young athlete says she is getting “nervous for no reason.”
But that’s generally not true; it’s likely she’s experiencing underlying thoughts or fears. As sports parents, you should help young athletes identify such fears…
In this case, ask your sports kids what they worry about. Do they think about the outcome of the competition? Do they worry about performing badly in front of their friends and parents? Are they afraid of messing up or losing? Do they worry if you’ll be happy with their performance?
Whatever their fears, the next step is to help them identify the underlying fear and overcome it; as this will undermine trust in their skills.
For example, you might tell them to focus on their program and not what others think or what the future of the competition holds.
They need to focus on the moment–the next pass, shot or move. You want to help them let go of expectations and fears that prevent them from focusing on the here and now.
In addition, your athletes might not trust in their own skills when feeling nervous about outcomes.
They may over control their well-learned skills when they should instead be trusting in what they have learned.
You want them to perform intuitively…
Help them to focus on their talents and abilities. It should include young athletes’ best qualities in sports, reminders of what they’ve learned in practice and best moments.
To perform freely, your athletes should focus on one play at a time, let go of outcomes, not think about what others will think about their performance, and have fun.
Help Young Athletes Overcome Perfectionist Challenges in Sports!
Nearly every athlete struggles with some form of perfectionism or fear of failure.
Kids who look like stars in practice will often choke up or under perform during games or competition. Other athletes expect too much of themselves—then get frustrated when they don’t meet their high expectations. Or they’re extremely hard on themselves.
In all cases, this causes young athletes to play it safe. They refuse to take the important risks that help them excel and improve their confidence. Suddenly, they’re held back by fear, indecision, and hesitation.
Learn how to help young athletes overcome the difficult cycle of perfectionism, fear of failure and loss of confidence. You can stop guessing about what to do and say to your athlete!
Our program: “Sports Parents’ Top Dilemma: Helping Young Athletes Kick Perfectionism and Fear of Failure,” will walk you through the problem and arm you with practical solutions you can start implementing today.
You’ll start seeing changes in your young athlete’s confidence almost immediately.
Make your role as sports parent more enjoyable and easier! We tell you how to help your young athletes:
- Let go of mistakes more quickly
- Accept feedback better
- Stop criticizing themselves
- Perform more freely
- Think more creatively
- Stop worrying about what others’ think
- Dramatically improve their performance and attitude in sports
- Improve their confidence in sports
- They, too, will have more fun and reap more rewards.
“Sports Parents’ Top Dilemma: Helping Young Athletes Kick Perfectionism and Fear of Failure,” consists of two parts:
- A 23-page e-book that identifies the challenge, explains why it is harmful to young athletes (but also very common), and gives in-depth, step-by-step “sports psychology” tips for helping kids. Download this instantly!
- A 21-page kids’ sports psychology workbook that is intended to help your kids identify beliefs and expectations that are the root of perfectionism. It will also help them develop strategies to play more freely with less fear in competition.