Strategies to Help Sports Kids Overcome Failure
Fear of failure affects sports children in all types of sports, but can be especially challenging in baseball, says Nova Newcomer, executive director, Friends of Baseball, in Portland, Oregon.
“The tough challenge with baseball is it’s a failure-based sport,” says Newcomer, whose organization is a partner of the Positive Coaching Alliance.
“What I mean by that is the best players in the sport are only going to succeed three out of 10 times. It’s a sport that gives you immediate feedback about how you are doing, and often that can be tough for young kids, especially if they are going through a rough patch.”
Fear of failure is normal in every sport, but in sports like baseball where the success rate is relatively low, fear of failure can be exacerbated because kids feel like they’re not succeeding.
As we know with fear of failure, this only leads to more fear, which leads to more failure!
“It’s important that you teach the kids that they are playing a moment-based sport – they can chose to really obsess over that moment, or they can chose not to,” says Newcomer.
In our recent podcast interview with her, she gives some advice to parents and coaches about dealing with fear of failure.
“Have a mistake ritual. Have something that you do that lets your kids remember, ‘Yes I made a mistake but I need to move on with the game.’ One that a lot of kids do is brush their shoulder off, giving that little signal to yourself that you are processing your mistake and letting it go. Some kids do better with humor, so they ‘flush’ their mistakes,” she says.
Newcomer says it’s best if your children help create a mistake ritual. This will allow your children to process their mistakes
Listen to our interview with Newcomer here:
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Nearly every athlete struggles with some form of perfectionism or fear of failure.
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- Criticize themselves often after making mistakes?
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Young athletes and their parents and coaches tell us that sports kids often struggle with these pregame mental game challenges:
- They feel pressure to excel from expectations they feel from others
- They focus too much on the outcome instead of the process
- They fail to take charge of their confidence before the compete
- They don’t trust in their skills when they go from practice to competition
- They hang on to mistakes and dwell in them in competition
- They worry too much about what others think about their performance
- They tighten up and play safe when they feel pressure to succeed
- They interpret pregame jitters as harmful to their performance
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