Help Sports Kids Feel Motivated, Not Pressured
A new book, “Trophy Son,” about tennis prodigy Anton Stratis, is an important warning about the dangers of being over-involved, albeit well-meaning, sports parents.
The book details the world of tennis from young Anton’s point of view.
“Anton has the tennis dad from hell in Trophy Son… Douglas Brunt’s breezy coming-of-age novel,” says a review in USA Today. “Anton, who narrates this tale, pretty much gets our sympathy from the first page: ‘A tennis racket lurks in my earliest memories like a sick relative who had come to live with us.'”
Anton’s dad is a former Olympic swimmer and retired millionaire who focuses all his energy on Anton. In one part of the book, Anton’s dad refuses to let him drink water on a hot day while he hits hundreds of balls on the family’s private court, says the review.
Here at the Ultimate Sports Parent and Kids’ Sports Psychology, we’ve mentioned before that it’s important that kids feel motivated from within to play sports–that they are self-motivated or self-directed–as they progress.
If parents pressure them with expectations to excel, they’ll end up feeling more pressure, playing to please their parents, and not having fun. This type of external motivation doesn’t create happy, confident, or successful athletes.
Instead of pressuring their sports kids, parents need to focus on building confidence in their young athletes.
To build confidence, they should focus on what motivates their young athletes to play, whether it’s to be with friends, learn new skills, be part of a team, or enjoy competing. They need to be as supportive as possible.
In our latest program, “10-Minute Pregame Prep,” we help parents understand just what they should do before a game to build confidence in their young athletes.
We address the dangers of high expectations, what to say to kids just before a game, and what not to say, and how to help kids mentally prepare for competition.
Trust us, none of this involves high expectations and pressure! It includes our tried-and-true tips for helping kids feel prepared, confident and composed before a game.
Young athletes, their parents and coaches tell us that sports kids often struggle with these pregame mental game challenges:
- They fail to take charge of their confidence before the compete
- They don’t trust in their skills when they go from practice to competition
- They hang on to mistakes and dwell in them in competition
- They worry too much about what others think about their performance
- They feel pressure to excel from expectations they feel from others
- They focus too much on the outcome instead of the process
- They tighten up and play safe when they feel pressure to succeed
- They interpret pregame jitters as harmful to their performance
“10 Minute Pregame Prep” will tell you everything you need to know about ensuring your sports kids avoid classic mental game pitfalls before a game, learn how to trust their instincts, and just go for it. It provides lots of advice for you, too…
Parents ask us:
“How do I support my athlete without putting more pressure on him?”
“I am more nervous than my son before games. How do I as a parent stay calm and not show I am nervous before games?”
“My challenge is not to talk too much about the upcoming games or what they need to do. I want to psych him up and encourage him but don’t want him to feel that he has to perform perfectly.”
With our program, you can stop wondering what to do and relax before your kids’ games!
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What are sports parents and coaches saying about our tips?
“ABSOLUTELY LOVING your weekly videos and tips. I have a young high performing tennis player. He almost needs the thrill of competition and a match to perform well. In fact the more people that are watching and the higher the stakes the better he usually does. His problem is practice-he does not seem to motivate himself in practice.”
~Alex Dunn, Sports Parent
“I wanted to let you know that I read your last email to my 14-year-old son the evening before his final match at a tournament, which he subsequently won. He said that your message helped him to focus and win. He won 1-6, 7-5, 6-4. Thanks for your valuable insights!”
~Arjun Kalyanpur, Tennis Parent
Help Young Athletes Boost Confidence in Sports!
Do your young athletes:
- Criticize themselves often after making mistakes?
- Freeze up and look scared when faced with competitive pressure?
- Lose confidence after working with a negative coach?
- Perform like stars in practice but freeze up or play tentatively during games or competitions?
If so, check out The Ultimate Sports Parent!
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What are sports parents saying about our mental training program?
“After listening to your podcasts and reading your free e-book, most of the challenges apply to my 14-year-old son. He’s got all the physical ability, but unsure of himself in games. He has a difficult time rebounding from errors, the screaming coach on the side, along with his uncle in the stands probably doesn’t help his confidence. So reading and listening to your information has been so helpful and validates what I have observed in him for the past few months. Thank you so much!”
~Brenda Felder, Everett, WA
“I downloaded the free sports psychology e-book, ’10 Tips to Improve Confidence & Success in Young Athletes.’ This is an excellent and invaluable teaching tool for parents of today’s young athletes!”
~Marc D. Anderson, MGCP, Mental Game Coach