What Parents Shouldn’t Do Before a Game
Parents, to boost your kids’ confidence and help them focus prior to games, it’s critical to know what to do and say before a game.
It may not be obvious how to act and what to say. Let’s start with some basic ideas for your pregame behavior:
Just before a game:
1. Don’t over-coach your kids, telling them where to plant their feet, how to make a great pass, or how they should stand to make a free-throw. These details only fill their heads with information that distracts them.
Just before a game, they need to trust in what they’ve learned and just go for it.
2. Don’t remind young athletes of the mistakes they have made in the past. Don’t say things like, “Don’t make another turnover like you did at the beginning of last game!” or “Try to avoid tripping over your feet again!” Such statements undermine kids’ confidence just before a game. We don’t want them to think about past mistakes, which can hurt their confidence.
You want them to focus on what’s happening right now—the warm up or the first moments of the game!
3. Don’t say things that suggest you want your kids to perform or play perfectly. Avoid statements like: “Let’s not miss any shots this game!” or “Let’s try for a perfect performance.” This only pressures kids, especially if they’re perfectionists.
You want them to feel like they are able to make mistakes.
4. Along the same lines, don’t heap expectations on your kids. Avoid statements like “I want you to be the top scorer today!” Young athletes will pick up on your expectations and adopt them as their own. Again, this pressures them and causes them to get frustrated easily.
Instead, help hone their focus on what’s important: one play at a time.
If you avoid these top mistakes before your young athletes’ games, we promise your kids will feel more confident and free to perform intuitively!
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Young athletes and their parents and coaches tell us that sports kids often struggle with these pregame mental game challenges:
- They feel pressure to excel from expectations they feel from others
- They focus too much on the outcome instead of the process
- They fail to take charge of their confidence before the compete
- They don’t trust in their skills when they go from practice to competition
- They hang on to mistakes and dwell in them in competition
- They worry too much about what others think about their performance
- They tighten up and play safe when they feel pressure to succeed
- They interpret pregame jitters as harmful to their performance
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