Giving Youth Sports Back to Kids
“Nine-year-olds have the amazing ability to act like nine-year-olds,” says Bob Bialow, a former NBA players and author of “Just Let The Kids Play,” and, “Youth Sports: Still Failing Out Kids,” in a recent interview for our podcast.
“Most of the folks running youth sports, however, haven’t been 9 in decades and sometimes forget what it’s like to be a kid,” he said.
The number one challenge for coaches, adults, and administrators according to Bigalow is:
“Can you suspend your adult brains and make this about kids? Or will your adult brain and competitiveness override your brain?”
While Bigalow likes to use nine-year-olds an an example, he says he is most worried about the young athletes who are are 9-18.
“Now they’re beginning to show talent and competitive urges of kids start to surface. They start comparing themselves to others,” he says.
Here at Kids’ Sports Psychology, we think kids shouldn’t compare themselves to others. That’s what we call a mental game no-no. When they do this, they stop focusing on what they bring to sports, and instead focus on others’ strengths.
During the interview, mental game expert Dr. Patrick Cohn noted that he sees kids feeling like they need to adopt their parents’ adult work ethics and values, especially when their in high school.
But that often comes across as pressure, which doesn’t boost kids confidence and performance in sports…
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Young athletes and their parents and coaches tell us that sports kids often struggle with these pregame mental game challenges:
- They feel pressure to excel from expectations they feel from others
- They focus too much on the outcome instead of the process
- They fail to take charge of their confidence before the compete
- They don’t trust in their skills when they go from practice to competition
- They hang on to mistakes and dwell in them in competition
- They worry too much about what others think about their performance
- They tighten up and play safe when they feel pressure to succeed
- They interpret pregame jitters as harmful to their performance
“10 Minute Pregame Prep” will tell you everything you need to know about ensuring your sports kids avoid classic mental game pitfalls before a game, learn how to trust their instincts, and just go for it. It provides lots of advice for you, too…
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- Criticize themselves often after making mistakes?
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- Perform like stars in practice but freeze up or play tentatively during games or competitions?
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