Stay Confident After A Loss
It’s easy to hurt your young athletes’ confidence after a game, saying the wrong things or talking too much about the game, especially if your team lost.
Many kids link their self-esteem with their performance. We don’t want that to happen. Too often, parents say things that sink kids’ confidence and self-esteem after a game.
What’s more, they inadvertently “punish” kids after bad games and “reward” them for good games.
For example, showing excitement is a reward and being silent after a bad game can feel like punishment to a young athlete.
Instead, parents need to:
- Think hard about the subtle rewards and punishments you unintentionally send to your sports kids after a game or performance.
- Try to stay consistent in your body language and other reactions after a game, ie, don’t show too much emotion if the team wins or loses (We know this isn’t easy!)
- Don’t focus on your child’s mistakes after a game—and don’t suggest that kids shouldn’t make mistakes; they should!
- Help kids understand that their self-esteem should not be linked to whether they win or lose. Tell them you love them no matter what.
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