Sports Parents’ Sideline Behavior And It’s Influence on Kids
Recently, we told you about a study from Active Network about just how much parents’ behavior affects kids’ sports experience…
Active found that kids are more likely to be interested in sports if their parents enjoy participating at the adult level.
That’s not the only way young athletes see their parents as role models.
Kids also keep a keen eye on their parents during youth sporting events.
If you yell on the sidelines at the kids, lambast coaching decisions, or challenge the referees, your young athletes will likely behave the same way.
Do you really want your sports kids to yell at, challenge and harass coaches, other kids and refs?
Your answer should be no.
If young athletes funnel their attention into being angry or upset about what’s happening around them, they’ll be distracted.
It will be difficult for them to focus on the tasks needed to get their job done as athletes. And that will undermine their performance.
As one young athlete, 13-year-old Lauren, told us, “The major problem is my parents. Dad’s cheering embarrasses me. Just before I shoot in soccer, he yells, ‘Pull the trigger!’ It’s so awful.”
As we’ve said many times before, kids who are distracted don’t play well. You, as parents, can really make a difference if you can behave in a way that allows them to focus.
So, how should you behave on the sidelines?
- Cheer for all the kids.
- Support the coaches.
- Don’t challenge the refs.
At Kids’ Sports Psychology, we just posted a new article about how parents can best support their kids on the sidelines…a hot topic these days, given the tendency for fighting, yelling, and violence on the sidelines.
We’ve got loads of other resources for parents interested in being the best sports parents possible and ensuring their young athletes make the most of their potential.
Here’s what sports parents are saying about our resources:
“I really do encourage your work. It’s great to see people trying to help kids see things from the mental side of the game and how important that is.”
~Kirk Mango, former Division I gymnast and longtime youth coach
Help your young athletes build their confidence and enjoy sports!
P.S. Exclusive members of Kids’ Sports Psychology have access to some great tips in our new article about how parents should behave on the sidelines:
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What are parents and coaches saying?
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~Anthony (Tony) Costa, coach
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~Scott, Sports Dad
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What are parents saying?
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~Brenda Felder, Everett, WA