Goal Setting in Youth Sports
Do you feel frustrated when your young athletes seem to lack motivation and direction? Would helping sports kids set goals be helpful?
If so, you’re not alone.
We often hear from sports parents and coaches who want to better understand how to help motivate their young athletes to work harder. They’re struggling with that very difficult balancing act:
Trying to motivate without pressuring.
Here’s what one sports parent wonders about how he can help his daughter achieve her goals:
“I have a daughter who wants to play for UCLA and the US Olympic softball teams. She has great drive and desire, but I don’t think she realizes how hard she needs to work to achieve her goals. How can I help her achieve her goals?”
Another parent wants to help motivate her child without nagging her:
“How do you motivate a very talented player to consistently reach her highest potential? And how can I help my athlete be self-motivated to improve instead of being reminded/nagged all the time?”
When parents come to us with these questions, they often confuse pressuring their kids with helping them set goals. Are you one of these parents or coaches? It’s likely you are–no matter how
well-meaning your intentions are. It’s also likely that you feel frustrated and confused.
At what point is setting goals simply another way to pressure young athletes?
The answer is not obvious.
We’re here to tell you that helping kids set goals is NOT pressuring them—but it’s critical for you to follow our tried-and-true guidelines.
We just completed a new Kids’ Sports Psychology e-book, “Drive For Success: How Young Athletes Can Achieve Their Goals” written specifically for kids.
In order to reach for their dreams, kids do indeed need to set goals.
The process can improve their motivation, focus and dedication to their sport. Goals help athletes identify their weaknesses and structure practices so they’re as helpful as possible.
Your young athletes should set their own goals. You certainly can help them set their goals, but they should be their own goals, not yours. When kids set their own goals, they are more likely to take ownership in them and stick to them.
Setting goals, however, is tricky. Kids need both short and long-term goals. They have to be very careful about how they try to achieve them.
And you have to be careful as sports parents and coaches about how you try to help them achieve their goals. Yes, goals can become pressure—too much pressure.
Our newest e-book, “Drive For Success: How Young Athletes Can Achieve Their Goals” tells sports kids the secrets to setting goals in ways that improve their success and help them feel more confident in sports.
If you join Kids Sports Psychology, you’ll have access to other mental training e-books to improve kids’ confidence and success in sports including:
- Focus to the Max! How to Focus in Ways that Get You “In the Zone” & Improve Your Performance
- How Young Athletes Can Think and Perform Like Pros by Using “Get Ready” Routines
- Mental Imagery: Using Your Imagination In Your “Get Ready” Routines
- 10 Ways of Thinking That Hurt Kids Confidence
- Six Steps for Helping You Kick Fear of Failure and Perfectionism: A Workbook for Sport Kids
- Teaching Athletes to Get in the Flow of Sports
- 12 Pregame Tips to Trust What You’ve Learned in
You can read more about our e-books written specifically for young athletes by visiting this link:
Sports Psychology Ebooks For Children in Sports
P.S. If you’re already an exclusive member of Kids’ Sports Psychology, you can login and download your new e-book here:
Drive For Success: How Young Athletes Can Achieve Their Goals
Help Young Athletes Overcome Perfectionist Challenges in Sports!
Sports Parents’ Top Dilemma: Helping Young Athletes Kick Perfectionism And Fear of Failure will walk you through the problem and arm you with practical solutions.
The Sports Parents’ Top Dilemma is a two part program. It includes:
- A 23 page E-book that identifies the challenge, explains why it is harmful to young athletes and gives step-by-stop sports psychology tips for helping kids.
- A 21 page kids’ sports psychology workbook that is intended to help you kids identify beliefs and expectations that are the root of perfectionism.
Now you can learn how to help young athletes overcome the difficult cycle of perfectionism, fear of failure and loss of confidence!
What are parents saying?
“Your Information Had Been So Helpful”
“After listening to a couple of your podcasts and reading your “10 tips to confidence in youth sports,” most of the challenges you make note of apply to my 14-year-old son. He’s got all the physical ability, but the more mistakes he makes, the worse it seems to get. So reading and listening to your information has been so helpful and validates what I have observed in him for the past few months. Thank you so much!”
~Brenda Felder, Everett, WA
Help Your Young Athletes Overcome Self-Doubt In Sports!
The Confident Sports Kid helps young athletes improve confidence quickly and overcome common confidence killers that destroy motivation and fun in sports!
This is a 7-day program for sports parents and kids to boost young athletes’ performance, happiness and success… in sports and life!
The Confident Sports Kid program is actually two programs: one that teaches sports parents how to boost their kids’ confidence, and another that teaches young athletes age 8 to 12 how to improve their self talk, avoid negative thinking, overcome expectations that limit confidence, and much more.
What are parents and coaches saying?
“Every Parent Should Be Required to Listen”
“I just listened to ‘The Ultimate Sports Parent Program‘ on a drive back from North Carolina. Every parent should be required to listen to it! I thought it was great. Thank you.”
~Rita, Sports Parent