Helping Kids Focus on The Process Instead of Outcome
A young athlete writes:
“I want to quit wrestling because I have too much anxiety with the pain and my failure. I have found other hobbies like lifting by myself or with a friend. I just don’t like wrestling and I don’t know how to tell my coach that wrestling is just not for me.”
Christopher is by no means alone! Fear of failure is one of the most common issues for sports kids, and it can sometimes create so much frustration that kids drop out, like Christopher.
To avoid having your sports kids drop out, it’s important to understand and address fear of failure and perfectionism.
Perfectionists are most likely to struggle with fear of failure.
While perfectionists work hard and practice constantly, often improving more quickly then others because of their work ethic, perfectionism has a dark side…
Perfectionists tend to be their own worst enemies.
They pressure themselves so much during competition that they undermine their own performance.
Perfectionists expect a lot of themselves, and when they do not perform up to those expectations, their confidence can be crushed.
Often perfectionists are known as “practice players,” players who will beat anyone during practice but will fail to perform when they’re in front of the bright lights of the real game.
Kids who grapple with perfectionism and fear of failure have all kinds of fears during game time.
They’re afraid that their coaches and teammates will criticize their performance, that they will let others down, and that they will not live up to their lofty expectations.
They focus on the results of the game rather then the game itself.
All of this takes kids’ heads out of the game. It can become so gut-wrenching that these athletes simply want to quit.
Young athletes should focus on the here-and-now during games, rather than thinking about mistakes, points, or what anyone else thinks of them.
The first thing you can do to help your sports children is identify the beliefs and expectations that are causing them so much frustration and pain.
Are they too focused on the end result of the game? Are they too worried about what their coaches and friends may think of them? Do they feel like they need to be the star of the team? Do they feel like a failure if they are not perfect?
Help kids try to identify and replace these thoughts with smaller, mot manageable goals or objectives.
For example, instead of having a goal of scoring 30 points in basketball, have them try to concentrate on being decisive when shooting and keeping their eyes on the basket when they release their shot.
By focusing on the process instead of the outcome, your sports kids will be able to concentrate on the game, rather than on their worries.
Help Young Athletes Overcome Perfectionist Challenges in Sports!
Nearly every athlete struggles with some form of perfectionism or fear of failure.
Kids who look like stars in practice will often choke up or under perform during games or competition. Other athletes expect too much of themselves—then get frustrated when they don’t meet their high expectations. Or they’re extremely hard on themselves.
In all cases, this causes young athletes to play it safe. They refuse to take the important risks that help them excel and improve their confidence. Suddenly, they’re held back by fear, indecision, and hesitation.
Learn how to help young athletes overcome the difficult cycle of perfectionism, fear of failure and loss of confidence. You can stop guessing about what to do and say to your athlete!
Our program: “Sports Parents’ Top Dilemma: Helping Young Athletes Kick Perfectionism and Fear of Failure,” will walk you through the problem and arm you with practical solutions you can start implementing today.
You’ll start seeing changes in your young athlete’s confidence almost immediately.
Make your role as sports parent more enjoyable and easier! We tell you how to help your young athletes:
- Let go of mistakes more quickly
- Accept feedback better
- Perform more freely
- Think more creatively
- Stop worrying about what others’ think
- Dramatically improve their performance and attitude in sports
- Stop criticizing themselves
- Improve their confidence in sports
- They, too, will have more fun and reap more rewards.
“Sports Parents’ Top Dilemma: Helping Young Athletes Kick Perfectionism and Fear of Failure,” consists of two parts:
- A 23-page e-book that identifies the challenge, explains why it is harmful to young athletes (but also very common), and gives in-depth, step-by-step “sports psychology” tips for helping kids. Download this instantly!
- A 21-page kids’ sports psychology workbook that is intended to help your kids identify beliefs and expectations that are the root of perfectionism. It will also help them develop strategies to play more freely with less fear in competition.
Learn Mental Game Lessons to Help Young Athletes With Their Pregame Prep!
Young athletes and their parents and coaches tell us that sports kids often struggle with these pregame mental game challenges:
- They feel pressure to excel from expectations they feel from others
- They focus too much on the outcome instead of the process
- They fail to take charge of their confidence before the compete
- They don’t trust in their skills when they go from practice to competition
- They hang on to mistakes and dwell in them in competition
- They worry too much about what others think about their performance
- They tighten up and play safe when they feel pressure to succeed
- They interpret pregame jitters as harmful to their performance
“10 Minute Pregame Prep” will tell you everything you need to know about ensuring your sports kids avoid classic mental game pitfalls before a game, learn how to trust their instincts, and just go for it. It provides lots of advice for you, too…
With our program, you can stop wondering what to do and relax before your kids’ games!
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